Gay man is repulsed by his peers...any advice?

Have you investigated the concept of G0Y? I know there are guys on here that can probably elaborate way more than I can. And that may not even be the right symbolism. But I know that they tend to hold to some high standards in men and this might be more along the lines of the type of man that you are seeking. Don't think that it's any different in the world. I guess I'm just so very blessed in that my partner and I are very conservative and she feels VERY much like you do about her gay peers, the club scene and the promiscuity of alot of the gay community. (no offense to others and please don't slam me.) So I understand what you mean.